Locked in Low Self-Esteem Prison

by Tapping Insider’s Club Masterclass Guest Expert, Cat Stone

With great pride and excitement, I’m thrilled to share with you I’ve recorded a 4-Part Masterclass for the Tapping Insider’s Club entitled “Locked In Low Self-Esteem Prison”. Tapping Insider’s Club is the membership club created by Tapping Solution founders Nick Ortner and Jessica Ortner EFT Helps Mother Slim Down featuring a wealth of recorded programs and scripts to help you learn how to use EFT in your own life. To be asked to teach along side some of my most esteemed mentors is quite an honor, so I wanted to create a profound class that would help attendees shift on a very meaningful level.

The confident knowledge of one’s own value is central to create success for ourselves.

Yet, at the root of nearly every one of the tens of thousands of clients and students I’ve worked with over the span of nearly three decades is the issue of low or no self-esteem.

Why is this such a pervasive issue? We begin, as we almost always do, in early childhood.

It’s been said that by the time a child is just two years old they’ve heard the word NO in a loud, strong, angry and firm voice directed at them hundreds of thousands of times. You only had to listen to my mother to understand how this could happen to a sweet, innocent life. My mother would never be described as abusive in any way especially to children and yet she inflicted damage like so many of us do because when a child misbehaved or was in danger you could hear her staccato “No, No, NO, NOOOOO” from halfway round the world!

The reason adults all seem to do this is simple: rarely does such a small child listen, comprehend and immediately stop whatever they are doing on a dime. Not only does this seeming lack of comprehension frustrate adults, but in the cases where the child is in danger it increases both fear and urgency. The adult simply has to make the child comply.

The challenge? On the one hand, toddlers don’t yet have the capacity to discern what these commands actually mean. Without the contextual understanding gained with age, hearing “no, No, NO!” inadvertently conveys the message that WE OURSELVES are wrong. This emotionally damaging message is deepened with the level of emotional intensity with which the words are hurtled at the child. All of this is truly heartbreaking when one realizes that most often the adult is simply trying to train or even protect the child. But it gets worse.

What we are just learning as a species is that being energetic beings living a physical experience we are both receiving energies and transmitting them. One doesn’t have to be a trained Reiki Master to project one’s energy, we all do this naturally. When a mother reaches to sooth a hurt child she is pouring her healing love energy into that child with physical contact, but the energy reaches forth from her the very moment she even thinks of comforting her cherished child.

When we speak commands forcefully, yell them, shout or scream them? We are pouring our energetic fury into the ethers actually intending they reach the object of our command! That powerful energy reaches into the very heart and soul of a precious child, forever changing them creating an unseen yet painfully felt prison of low self-esteem. I’d love to say this doesn’t affect us all, but frankly I think it does.

While some people are obviously affected greatly, even the most successful people can suffer great bouts of doubt resulting from the stuck energy of low self-esteem.
The more we strive for success the more we touch these deep wounds.

The great news, of course, is that we no longer have to just bear up, hoping our force of will is enough to sustain or push us through. We don’t have to accept what is. We can learn simple tools like EFT Tapping to help us release the stuck energy we have that causes us to live in the prison of our pain. We can release the false ideas we have about ourselves and life. We can release the feelings of separation and isolation.

And in releasing we return to the truth of our vital self-worth, the balanced energy of the profoundly clear experience of being fully who we are. And in so doing, perhaps for the first time, come to a conscious realization of the love we have within, for ourselves and ultimately the others in our lives.

Expertly narrated by my dear friend, Best-Selling Author and Energy Coach, Kris Feraro, this class provides masterful supportive and entertaining insights, guidance and application of EFT Tapping to help you learn to resolve your own self-esteem issues. While many people wish to only focus on the positive, or they prefer to end each session on a positive note, I’ve found that really effective EFT tapping and release does focus on the pain, the origins of it and the experience of it. Rather than give our tapping lip service, we know that in order to create genuine release we simply do need to learn that we are safe to say or think the negative while tapping. Checking in a few days later we’ll find ourselves in a new place, and while this new place may also feel negatively charged, when we commit to tapping until we are truly clear, we will get there.

This 4 part series helps you harness the healing power of EFT Tapping focusing on:

  • What the “I’m not good enough” programming is that’s running within you, and how it got there in the first place
  • The impact of our childhood experiences on these limiting beliefs (and judgment’s role in this)
  • How the general belief of “I’m not good enough” can interfere in multiple aspects of your life and how you can use Tapping to overcome it
  • The idea of personal well-being and its importance in understanding what we want to create in your own life and future
  • How your emotional beliefs of “I’ll be happy when…” can bring about disappointment and how to rephrase this common thought
  • The importance of looking inward at personal valuation and how this helps your journey
  • How the belief of “I’m not good enough” affects your relationships and how you can change it to a more empowering belief
  • How the “I’m not good enough” programming is related to the Law of Attraction and can cause you to attract the wrong relationships
  • Tips to release this programming and how that will also impact the perception of experiences, events, memories, and beliefs in your life
  • How the belief of “I’m not good enough” affects your business and financial goals and how to attract abundance instead
  • The impact of your energy field on clients when discussing your business or money and how to create energy that reflects your intentions
  • Why a successful business and having financial security is important in your life (and it’s not what you think!)

To access this class, you can either purchase it thru the Tapping Solution for $49.

To work on your Self-Esteem issues directly with me in a program tailored specifically for you, just email me at catstone@inlivingharmony.com.

I caught Cat’s class on Low Self-Esteem on the Tapping Insider’s Club and I was so impressed. She opened my eyes to just how deeply my self-esteem issues were affecting me and I realized that’s why I’ve been so mad all the time. Instead of making me feel worse I completely got what she said about working through it until we’re done healing. This class inspired me to just do my own work until I finally feel good about myself and my contributions at work. Cat’s position that we need to know it’s important to look at the negative stuff so we can fully release it and that we’re safe to do it really made sense. I’d tried to be positive so many times before but that was just a waste of time and effort. Now I just tap on the negative until the positive things are free to just come up. No more pushing, no more forcing. Now I don’t have to pretend to feel good about myself, I just do.

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✨🎶Before I studied energy work, understood my painful feelings, or moved out of my childhood bedroom, I began finding my answers in music. #BarryManilow was one of the artists who understood what I was going through. His lyrics pointed the way for me to heal.💖

Just a little girl when I heard these lyrics for the first time —

“𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘯’ 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯’, 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘰𝘵𝘴
𝘰𝘧 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘯' 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘥𝘰, 𝘉𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘤, 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘪𝘵 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘵rue..."

…something about the power of his voice made it through the pain. Beautiful Music was the first time I learned emotions could be healed! That believing in yourself — even when the world didn’t — meant someday I could be happy.🎤🌟

✨ In a world where nobody talked about “beautiful feelings,” Barry sang about them out loud! Suddenly my heartache had a melody, my hopes a chorus, and my soul had a mission: to learn HOW to Let GO of pain so I could live this beautiful life.

Decades later, a few miles from my childhood home, I got chills as Barry sang another life-changing song of his: All the Time. Transported back to my old bedroom I remembered the pain of just how alone and confused I felt. A moment later I was filled with more love than I ever dreamed back then. This…this is my REAL life! The one I created by healing: An adoring husband, luxurious home, beautiful animals, cherished clients, amazing friends, wonderful
family. 

And Music…Beautiful Music!🎶💖

🎧Barry’s music planted the seed that led me on the journey I’m still walking today — teaching
people how to heal, release, and rise through the energy of emotions.

There’s a reason you landed here today. Your soul knows it’s time to heal — And if you like, I
can help you learn HOW.💫

🎶 Music inspires, but to heal – and create our dreams - we need to learn HOW. When we learn
how to release our stuck energy we not only hear the beautiful music but we can learn how to
live our beautiful lives…#inLivingHarmony.💓

#BeautifulMusic #TapWithCat
Healing Grief: A Way Back to Love

Today marks the 12th year since the awful day my big brother died. When he passed, I wasn’t just grieving him—I grieved the loss of my family and the future I trusted would be ours. At first, people were caring, kind and supportive. Inevitably, while they still cared people turned their attention back to their own lives as they should. They stop saying your loved-one’s name, they don’t ask how you’re doing.

When all the “doing” is over, we find ourselves alone with the weight and enormity of our pain. The deafening silence of it is unbearable. Most of us try to ignore it and press on often feeling wrong because we’re still hurting so much.

The truth is:

💔 Grief doesn't go away because we don’t talk about it.

💫 Unprocessed pain gets stuck.

🕰 Time heals all wounds is a LIE. In fact, unprocessed pain grows and hurts more as time
goes by.

I’ve met so many beautiful souls still carrying unbearable pain for a brother or sister, mother,
father, friends…the fur family they lost years ago. I’ve been there. I was there.

Thankfully energy modalities like #EFTTapping have helped me process ALL the pain from
losing my hilarious, sweet, super cool big brother. Now when I think about him it’s with a smile or
a laugh on my lips. There are tiny moments with a sort of “wish you were here” sort of feeling,
but no agonizing pain.

The gratitude I have for our profoundly loving, nurturing and mutually admiring relationship is so
big there’s no room for any pain!

So if you are seeing this today, I hope you can hear the real reason I’m posting.

Healing IS possible. 💞

You don't have to carry the weight alone.

Releasing your grief doesn’t mean you love them any less. It just means… you’re ready to process the pain to let love flow in again.

If this speaks to your heart, DM me. I’m here to help.
Let’s talk about your loved-one. Say their name. Feel the love again.

🌊 Let the waves come, and I’ll teach you how to let them pass.
❤️ You can live, laugh, and love again—in Living Harmony.

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#GriefAndLove #EnergyHealing
Weekends are meant to be a time for relaxation, joy, and recharging. Often stress from the week lingers, leaving us unable to fully unwind. Or worse it grows creating even more anxiety. (EFT) Tapping, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, offer simple and effective ways to release everyday tensions and create space for peace and restoration.

For general stress, we don’t need to make things complicated. Our energetic systems are robust
and fully capable of releasing the week’s buildup of strains and tensions with a simplified version
of the “Touch and Breathe” EFT method. 

EFT, often referred to as "tapping," not only involves gently tapping on specific acupuncture points while acknowledging your thoughts and emotions it’s actually a comprehensive series of methods which are designed to offer agility in our healing efforts so we can be both gentle and effective in our release clearings. 

These practices help calm the nervous system, release negative energy, and restore emotional balance. In just a few minutes, you can shift your mood, clear your mind, and set the tone for a happy, stress-free weekend.

With this simplified EFT Tapping Touch and Breathe routine, you could shift out of stress mode and enter your weekend with a calm heart and mind ready to enjoy and restore! Whether you're planning a quiet evening at home or an adventure-filled weekend, tapping to release tension helps you feel content, secure and present.

✨ Want more tips and techniques like this? Visit my website to explore free resources, learn
about upcoming classes, and sign up for personalized coaching sessions. You’ll learn how to
release stress, clear blocks, and create a life you love…in Living Harmony.

LINK IN BIO to get started

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#inlivingharmony
As we honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. contemplating on his vision, many feel burdened with anger, fear and sadness. How, we ask, do we transmute pain into peace and hatred into love? Within that question is the very answer we seek: 

We must learn to let go to #heal ourselves. For in healing ourselves, so too, we heal our world. 

#EFTTapping, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, offers a gentle yet transformative way forward. Releasing our stuck energies feels like magic, but actually it’s a modality helping us #release blocks tethering us to negativity. It’s not slapping a coat of positivity over a foundation of pain. It’s honoring ourselves, allowing emotions to move through and out of us so they don’t define us. Clearing away the layers of pain, we uncover our true nature: our capacity for love, compassion, and even forgiveness.

Picture holding a tightly closed fist grasping all your negative emotions: anger at a friend who betrayed your trust, resentment for a coworker who undermined you, hatred for someone whose actions have caused deep harm. Your #feelings are valid and deserve to be acknowledged. But the act of clenching that fist is exhausting. It takes your energy, your joy, and your peace. EFT Tapping gently helps us open that fist by creating a safe space to acknowledge, feel, learn, and release to heal.

#Imagine a world where more people commit to this kind of inner healing. What might shift if, instead of reacting to hate with more hate, we paused, and tapped through our own emotions? This isn’t to say that we ignore injustice or turn a blind eye to wrongdoing. #Love is actually and action verb that requires us to stand firmly in our values, advocating for what’s right, and seeking solutions that uplift rather than destroy. 

So today, ask what might shift if you allowed yourself to release? You have the power to choose #light, to choose love. And when you do you not only transform your own life—you become a beacon of hope and healing for others. When we commit to our own healing, when we use tools like EFT to shift our energy from fear to love—we create ripples of healing that spread far beyond ourselves healing our world…in Living Harmony.
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